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Am I In Love Quiz: Crush, Infatuation Or Real Love?

Eighteen statements about one special person reveal whether your feelings look like a crush, infatuation, growing love or deep love.

  • 18 questions
  • About 3 min
  • Free, no sign-up
  • Based on Robert Sternberg's triangular theory of love

18 questions, about 3 min

Think about one specific person you have feelings for. Answer for how you have felt over the last few weeks.

18 statements, 5 answer options. You find out whether your feelings look like a crush, infatuation, growing love or deep love.

What This Quiz Measures

“Am I in love?” is hard to answer because love has several parts. This quiz uses psychologist Robert Sternberg’s triangular theory, which describes love as a mix of three ingredients:

IngredientWhat it feels like
PassionAttraction, excitement, butterflies, wanting to be near them
IntimacyCloseness, trust, being able to be yourself
CommitmentChoosing them, planning a future, staying through hard times

Your result shows how strong each one is, and what the combination suggests.

How The Quiz Works And How It Is Scored

Think of one person and rate 18 statements, six for each ingredient, from “Strongly disagree” to “Strongly agree”. Each answer scores 0 to 4, and you see your overall score plus a score for each ingredient.

Overall scoreResult
0% to 35%A crush
36% to 55%Infatuation
56% to 75%Love is growing
76% to 100%You are in love

Sample statement (Intimacy): “I know their flaws and still care about them.” Strong agreement adds 4 points to intimacy.

The Model Behind It

Robert Sternberg published his triangular theory of love in 1986. He suggested different combinations of the three ingredients create different kinds of love:

CombinationSternberg’s nameEveryday version
Passion onlyInfatuationA strong crush or “love at first sight”
Intimacy onlyLikingClose friendship
Commitment onlyEmpty loveStaying together without closeness or spark
Passion and intimacyRomantic loveClose and passionate, not yet committed
Intimacy and commitmentCompanionate loveDeep, steady partnership
Passion and commitmentFatuous loveA whirlwind commitment without deep knowledge
All threeConsummate loveThe full package

Crush, Infatuation Or Love?

  • A crush is attraction to someone you do not yet know well.
  • Infatuation, which psychologist Dorothy Tennov called limerence, is intense, obsessive longing, often focused on an idealised version of the person.
  • Love includes seeing someone clearly, flaws included, and choosing them anyway.

Research on brain imaging, including studies by anthropologist Helen Fisher, has found that early intense romantic love activates reward areas of the brain also involved in motivation, which helps explain why it can feel so consuming.

Frequently Asked Questions

How do I know if I am in love or just infatuated?

Infatuation focuses on excitement and an idealised picture. Love includes knowing the real person, trust and wanting to stay through difficulties.

How long does infatuation last?

Researchers have suggested that intense early romantic feelings often last from several months to a couple of years before changing into a calmer, deeper attachment.

Can you love someone without passion?

Yes. Sternberg called intimacy plus commitment “companionate love”, which is common in long, happy relationships.

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