Jealousy Test: How Jealous Are You? (Free, 18 Questions)

What This Test Measures

Jealousy is the fear of losing someone important to a rival. Almost everyone feels it sometimes. This test measures how strongly you feel it in romantic relationships, and splits it into three parts:

Part	What it is	Example
Jealous feelings	The emotional sting when your partner pays attention to someone else	Feeling upset when they compliment someone
Jealous thoughts	Suspicion and worry about what your partner might be doing	Wondering who they are with when they are late
Jealous actions	What you do about those feelings and thoughts	Checking their phone, questioning them, sulking

Splitting jealousy this way matters, because the three parts have different effects. Feelings on their own are normal. Constant suspicion and checking behaviour are what tend to damage trust.

How The Test Works And How It Is Scored

You rate 18 statements, six for each part, from “Strongly disagree” to “Strongly agree”. Two statements are reversed: agreeing with “I trust my partner even when I do not know exactly what they are doing” lowers your score.

Each answer scores 0 to 4. We show your overall score and a score for each part as a percentage.

Overall score	Result
0% to 20%	Secure and trusting
21% to 38%	Mildly jealous
39% to 55%	Moderately jealous
56% to 72%	Highly jealous
73% to 100%	Intensely jealous

Sample statement (Jealous actions): “I check my partner’s social media to see who they interact with.” Strong agreement adds 4 points to the actions score.

All statements were written by PrismaTest for this test.

The Research Behind It

Psychologists Susan Pfeiffer and Paul Wong proposed in 1989 that romantic jealousy has three parts: emotional, cognitive and behavioural. Their Multidimensional Jealousy Scale has been used in many later studies. This test follows the same three-part structure with our own statements.

Research using this model has found that:

Emotional jealousy on its own is not strongly linked with relationship problems, and can even reflect love and commitment.
Cognitive jealousy (suspicion) is linked with lower relationship satisfaction.
Behavioural jealousy (checking, questioning, restricting) is the part most linked with conflict and, in its extreme forms, with controlling behaviour.

Jealousy is also linked with anxious attachment: a deep worry about being abandoned that often starts with earlier relationships. Low self-esteem and past betrayal raise jealousy too.

All Possible Results

Secure And Trusting

You rarely feel threatened and give your partner space. Make sure you still speak up when something really bothers you.

Mildly Jealous

The occasional twinge, which you can name and let go. This is the most common, and healthy, pattern.

Moderately Jealous

Jealous feelings and worries come up often and cause some tension. Your highest bar shows where to focus.

Highly Jealous

Worry about losing your partner is frequent and may lead to checking or arguments. Building inner security helps most.

Intensely Jealous

Strong jealousy across all three parts. Support from a counsellor can make a big difference.

How To Read Your Result

Compare your three bars:

High feelings, low actions: you feel jealousy but handle it well. Talking about it openly is usually enough.
High thoughts: your mind fills gaps with worst-case stories. When a worry appears, ask: “What do I actually know?”
High actions: this is the area to work on first. Checking and questioning can bring short-term relief but erode trust over time, and they rarely make the feeling go away.

When Jealousy Becomes A Problem

Jealousy becomes harmful when it turns into control: telling a partner who they can see, monitoring their phone or location, or punishing them with anger or silence. If you recognise this in yourself, talking to a professional is a strong step. If you recognise it in a partner and feel afraid or restricted, please reach out to a support service in your country.

Frequently Asked Questions

Is it normal to feel jealous in a relationship?

Yes. Most people feel some jealousy, especially early in a relationship or when they feel insecure. What matters is how often it happens and what you do with it.

What causes jealousy?

Common causes include insecurity, fear of abandonment, past betrayal and comparing yourself to others. A partner’s behaviour can also be a factor, but strong jealousy often persists even when a partner has done nothing wrong.

How can I stop being jealous?

Notice the feeling without acting on it, check your thoughts against the facts, talk to your partner about what you need, and work on your own sense of worth outside the relationship. If jealousy is overwhelming, a therapist can help.

What is the difference between jealousy and envy?

Jealousy is the fear of losing something you have, such as a partner’s attention, to someone else. Envy is wanting something someone else has.

Related Tests

If your jealousy is high, the love style test can show whether you lean toward Mania, the anxious, possessive love style.

For self-reflection only. This is not a psychological assessment or relationship counselling. See how we build our tests.