What This Quiz Measures
People show love far more reliably through what they do than through what they say. This quiz looks at sixteen everyday behaviours that relationship research links with love and commitment, and groups them into four areas.
| Area | What it looks like |
|---|---|
| Attention | Listening, remembering details, noticing your moods |
| Effort | Making plans, showing up, doing thoughtful things |
| Future plans | Including you in his life, his circle and his plans |
| Affection | Warmth, touch and saying how he feels |
The quiz is written about “him”, but it works for any partner. Just read the questions with your person in mind.
How The Quiz Works And How It Is Scored
For each behaviour, you choose how often you have actually seen it: never, rarely, sometimes or often. Answers score 0 to 3. Your total becomes a love signs score from 0% to 100%, and each of the four areas gets its own score.
| Love signs score | Result |
|---|---|
| 0% to 25% | Not showing much interest yet |
| 26% to 45% | Mixed signals |
| 46% to 65% | He likes you |
| 66% to 82% | He is falling for you |
| 83% to 100% | All the signs of love |
Sample question: “He changes his plans to be there when you need him.” Answering “Often” adds 3 points to Effort.
The Research Behind The Signs
The four areas reflect well-supported ideas about what love looks like in practice:
- Responsiveness: research by psychologist Harry Reis and colleagues shows that feeling understood, valued and cared for by a partner is central to closeness. Our attention questions measure this.
- Investment: Caryl Rusbult’s investment model shows that people who put time and effort into a relationship are more committed to it. That is what the effort and future questions look for.
- Including you in his world: introducing a partner to friends and family, and planning together, are common markers of growing commitment.
- Affection: physical and verbal affection is linked with relationship satisfaction in many studies.
This quiz is a guided reflection based on those ideas, not a scientific instrument.
All Possible Results
Not Showing Much Interest Yet
Few signs of love so far. Check whether you are doing most of the work.
Mixed Signals
Some interest, but inconsistent. A clear conversation will help more than guessing.
He Likes You
Real interest and effort, still developing. Watch for steady growth.
He Is Falling For You
Strong and consistent signs across most areas. He is investing in you.
All The Signs Of Love
Almost every behaviour points to love. His actions are speaking clearly.
How To Read Your Result
Look at your lowest area. It often explains the uncertainty that made you take the quiz.
- Low attention: he may be distracted, stressed or not very emotionally aware. Tell him what you need.
- Low effort: he may enjoy you when you are there but not prioritise you. Notice who starts the plans.
- Low future: he may like you but not be ready for commitment. Ask what he wants.
- Low affection: some people show love through actions more than words or touch. High effort with low affection can still be real love.
When To Stop Guessing
If you have been trying to read his signals for a long time, the kindest thing you can do for yourself is ask. A simple “I like where this is going. How do you feel about us?” gives him a chance to be clear.
If his behaviour makes you feel anxious, belittled or afraid, that matters more than any love signs. Take the red flag test with him in mind, or talk to someone you trust.
Frequently Asked Questions
How do I know if he really loves me?
Look for consistency. Someone who loves you pays attention, makes time for you, includes you in his life and plans a future with you, not just once but over months.
He says he loves me but does not act like it. What does that mean?
When words and actions do not match, trust the actions. He may care in his own way, but you should feel loved, not only hear it.
Can a quiz tell me how he feels?
No quiz can read someone’s mind. This one helps you look honestly at what he does, which is the best evidence you have short of asking him.
Does this quiz work for girlfriends or same-sex partners?
Yes. The behaviours are the same for anyone. Just think of your partner as you answer.
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