Love Style Test: Find Your Love Style (Free, 6 Styles)

What This Test Measures

People do not all mean the same thing when they say “I love you”. For one person, love is a powerful attraction. For another, it is a friendship that deepened over years. This test measures your attitude to romantic love on six styles and shows how strongly each one describes you.

It is not the same as a love language test. Love languages are about how you like to give and receive affection. Love styles are about what love itself feels like to you and what you expect from it.

How The Test Works And How It Is Scored

You rate 30 statements from “Strongly disagree” to “Strongly agree”. Each love style has five statements, mixed so you answer one of each style in turn.

Each answer is worth 0 to 4 points. We add the points for each style and show them as a percentage of the maximum, so every style gets its own score from 0% to 100%. Your top style is your main love style, and the runner-up is shown too.

Sample statement (Storge): “It is hard to say exactly when friendship turned into love for us.” Strong agreement adds four points to Storge.

Your score on a style	What it means
75% and above	A defining part of how you love
50% to 74%	Clearly present, often alongside your main style
25% to 49%	A minor influence
Below 25%	Not how you approach love

The statements and descriptions were written by PrismaTest. They follow Lee’s definitions but are not copied from any published questionnaire.

The Model Behind It

In his 1973 book The Colours of Love, Canadian sociologist John Alan Lee described love styles by analogy with a colour wheel. He identified three primary styles, which can mix to form secondary ones:

Primary: Eros (passionate), Ludus (playful) and Storge (friendship).
Secondary: Pragma (Storge and Ludus: practical), Mania (Eros and Ludus: possessive) and Agape (Eros and Storge: selfless).

In the 1980s, psychologists Clyde and Susan Hendrick at Texas Tech University built a questionnaire on Lee’s theory and studied it with thousands of participants. Their research, and later studies in many countries, has found some consistent patterns:

Eros and Agape are linked with higher relationship satisfaction.
Ludus is linked with lower commitment and satisfaction.
Mania is linked with anxious attachment and jealousy.
On average, men in many samples score a little higher on Ludus and women a little higher on Storge and Pragma, but the differences are small and vary by culture.

Your style can shift over time. Research also suggests that couples who share similar love styles tend to report better relationships.

All Possible Results

Style	Nickname	Love feels like	Strength	Challenge
Eros	Passionate	Instant attraction and deep intimacy	Emotional honesty	The early high fading
Ludus	Playful	A fun game with no heavy pressure	Lightness and charm	Commitment
Storge	Friendship	Trust and companionship that grew slowly	Stability	Keeping romance alive
Pragma	Practical	A sensible match for a shared life	Long-term planning	Overthinking fit
Mania	Possessive	Highs and lows, needing reassurance	Devotion	Jealousy and anxiety
Agape	Selfless	Putting your partner first	Generosity	Neglecting yourself

Common Blends

Eros and Agape: passionate and giving. This combination is often linked with the happiest relationships.
Storge and Pragma: calm, loyal and grounded. You build relationships to last.
Eros and Mania: intense love with strong ups and downs. Security and open talk help the most.
Ludus and Pragma: you enjoy dating but choose carefully when it comes to commitment.

How To Read Your Result

Each style has its own guide with signs, relationship advice and a compatibility chart: see the six love styles explained.

Look at your top two styles together rather than one alone. Then look at your lowest score: knowing what love is not for you is just as useful when talking to a partner.

If your partner takes the test too, compare your profiles. A high-Ludus partner and a high-Mania partner often clash, because one wants freedom and the other wants reassurance. A shared high Storge score usually means you both value friendship at the heart of the relationship.

Frequently Asked Questions

What are the six love styles?

Eros (passionate love), Ludus (playful love), Storge (friendship love), Pragma (practical love), Mania (possessive love) and Agape (selfless love), as described by John Alan Lee in 1973.

Which love style is the best?

None is best in every way, but research links Eros and Agape with higher satisfaction and Ludus and Mania with more relationship problems. Your style is a starting point, not a verdict.

Is Mania love a bad sign?

A high Mania score means you feel love intensely and may worry about losing it. It is worth noticing, especially if jealousy causes arguments. Our jealousy test looks at this in more depth.

Can my love style change?

Yes. Studies show love styles shift with age, relationship length and life experience. Many people become more Storge and Pragma as relationships mature.

How is this different from a love language test?

Love languages describe how you express and receive affection, such as words or touch. Love styles describe what love means to you and what you expect from a relationship.

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For self-reflection only. It is not relationship counselling or a psychological assessment. See how we build our tests.