The good news about dealing with a Machiavellian person is that they are usually rational. They weigh costs and benefits. If manipulating you becomes costly, risky or pointless, they tend to move on. The aim is not to out-scheme them but to make scheming unprofitable.
Not sure whether you are dealing with real Machiavellianism? Compare their behaviour with the signs of Machiavellianism.
Eight Tactics
1. Make Things Visible
Manipulation thrives in private conversations and vague agreements. Copy relevant people into emails, summarise decisions in writing and share information openly with the wider team.
2. Share Less About Yourself
Personal details, insecurities and ambitions can become leverage. Stay friendly but keep sensitive information for people you trust.
3. Verify Before You Act
If they tell you what someone else said or wants, check directly with that person. Triangulation, passing messages between people, is a classic tactic.
4. Build Genuine Alliances
Machiavellians gain power when people are isolated. Strong, honest relationships with colleagues make it harder to divide you.
5. Watch The Timing Of Kindness
Notice when flattery or favours come just before requests. You can accept kindness while staying alert to the trade it implies.
6. Stay Calm
They often win by staying cool while others react. Slowing down, saying “let me think about that” and responding later removes that edge.
7. Keep Your Own Records
A brief log of dates, agreements and incidents helps if you ever need to raise concerns with a manager or HR.
8. Do Not Copy Their Methods
Fighting manipulation with manipulation damages your reputation and wellbeing. Transparency is a stronger long-term strategy.
Common Tactics And Responses
| Tactic | Example | Response |
|---|---|---|
| Triangulation | “Sam thinks your work is weak.” | “I’ll ask Sam directly.” |
| False urgency | “We must decide today.” | “I need until tomorrow to check.” |
| Flattery before a favour | “You’re the only one who can do this.” | “Thanks. Let me see what I have capacity for.” |
| Credit taking | Presents your idea as theirs | Share ideas in writing or in meetings first |
| Divide and rule | Feeds rivalries between colleagues | Talk openly with the people involved |
If The Person Is Your Manager
Your options are narrower, so documentation matters more. Keep your work visible to other senior people, build a network beyond your team and consider whether a transfer is possible. If the behaviour crosses into bullying, most employers have a formal process.
If The Person Is A Friend Or Partner
Ask yourself whether you often feel used, confused or played off against others. Personal relationships with a high Mach can feel like a negotiation. Read about Machiavellianism in relationships for more.
Frequently Asked Questions
Should I confront a Machiavellian coworker?
A calm, factual conversation about a specific behaviour can work, ideally with records. Avoid accusations about their character.
Can a Machiavellian person be a good ally?
Sometimes, if your interests align. Just be aware that the alliance may last only as long as it benefits them.
Do they know what they are doing?
Usually, yes. Unlike impulsive behaviour, Machiavellian tactics tend to be deliberate.
Practical guidance only. For serious workplace issues, consult HR or an employment adviser.