What This Test Measures
Compatibility is how well two people’s values, goals and habits fit together. This test asks you to rate your match in four areas:
| Area | Examples |
|---|---|
| Values | Honesty, religion, politics, family |
| Future plans | Children, location, careers, money |
| Lifestyle | Social life, free time, health, time together |
| Everyday habits | Tidiness, sleep, conflict, humour |
Unlike type-based quizzes, this test focuses on concrete issues couples actually argue about, so your result points to specific conversations.
How It Is Scored
Each of the 16 questions scores 0 to 4. On the future plans questions, “unclear or not discussed” deliberately scores low, because big decisions such as children and money that a couple has never talked about are a common source of later conflict.
| Score | Result |
|---|---|
| 0% to 40% | Very different couple |
| 41% to 60% | Compatible with work |
| 61% to 80% | Good match |
| 81% to 100% | Highly compatible |
For the best insight, take the test separately, then compare. If you rate your match very differently, that difference is information too.
What Research Says About Compatibility
- Similarity matters, but less than you think. Studies find couples tend to be similar in values, education and attitudes, yet similarity in personality predicts satisfaction only weakly.
- Shared values and goals matter more. Agreement on big life decisions is linked with stability.
- How you handle differences matters most. Gottman’s research suggests most couple conflicts are “perpetual problems” that never fully disappear. Happy couples learn to discuss them with humour and respect.
- Perceived similarity counts. Believing your partner shares your values can be as important as actual similarity.
Talking About Differences
- Start with curiosity: “What does money mean to you?”
- Separate deal-breakers from preferences. Children usually cannot be compromised on; tidiness can.
- Look for creative solutions, such as a cleaner, separate hobbies or split bedtimes.
- Revisit plans as life changes.
Frequently Asked Questions
Can a low compatibility couple succeed?
Yes, especially if differences are in everyday habits rather than core values and the couple communicates well.
Should we both take this test?
Yes. Comparing answers often reveals assumptions you have never discussed.
Is personality type compatibility important?
Less than shared values and how you treat each other. See our personality type compatibility chart for fun comparisons.
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